90s toddler trying to dress up as an elegant teen
i get up every morning, turn on my 1995 desktop computer, bite my bottom lip and do that wardrobe mix n match thing cher does in clueless. (kidding + i wish).
i must confess but i wear the same outfits alot, i’ll become really into a certain look and wear pretty much the same thing for 4 days in a row. most times before i go out to a specific thing that im really excited about ill dance around my room to music and try on different outfits til i feel 100% happy (this can take a while!!!!!) but its fun!
what helps for me is having a full length mirror in my bed room and having clothes i can easily see and access like on a clothes rack or visible shelves, most of my earring and necklaces are hanging on hooks or nails, so its like i constantly have every option on display for me.
maybe if yr feeling a lack of motivation and have some spare time the night before or in the morning you can plan an outfit(s) according to a secret theme you set for yrself e.g. bad ass babysitter, garden tea party, being interviewed on tyra, summer block party etc etc
oh my god! im gobble smacked!
congrats for you hav won most ignorant and rude comment to ever grace my tumblr inbox. and im not dismissing you as you so judgmentally said i would, ive thought about what youve said and can come to no other conclusion.
let me repeat you “ what you’re doing is inappropriate and totally disregards the experience that real transmen go through”
………… wow, im speechlees
honey, i AM a real transman…….
please name me one thing i am doing thats inappropriate?
i am totally aware that my experience of being trans is different to most transmen and i hav alot of privilege by CURRENTLY being able to pass in public as cis gendered (a cis girl that is) more often than not.
you do not know me, you have no idea if i take hormones or if ive had surgery or who im out to or if ive changed my name legally (not that having done/not done these things means id be any less/more legit trans) you have no idea what i do/dont have access to or what i want. so stop jumping to conclusions. trust me alot of experiences i have are that of most transguy (ya know, being a transguy myself).
yr comment is soooo inappropriate and totally disregards my experience as a real femme transboy and what i go through.
also ” you will appropriate my arguments to suit your needs ”
dont you dare tell me how i am going to react. appropriating other peoples arguments to suit my needs is so not my jam! the way you’ve worded this is so disgusting! ew ew ew ew
if you are following me please stop anonymous jerk.
im sorry that 2012 is seeming a little harder for you than 1918 but open yr mind, dude!
*imagine a pic of me puking on you here*
do you ask this cause i just quoted myself and refereed to myself in 3rd person as tee vee dinner?
maybe its “getting to my head” in the ‘awwww cool, people are being super nice to me, im so glad i have a place where i can be creative and honest and hav a voice and people like it and listen, should work more on my screenplay, yeah i can do anything, feelin confident rules!’ kinda way.
but i cant help but feel like you mean “getting to your head” in a negative way.
*flips da bird*
p.s. maybe yr being genuine? i get defensive sometimes, but i gotta right, now that im queen bee/miss world/leonardo dicaprios (circa 98) BFF (kiddin)
yeah i definitely do get questions that cross the line, i usually dont post them. so if you think a question is really rude than simply dont ask it, let me spell it out for you r-e-s-p-e-c-t. also if i havent yet replied to yr question its not that im offended, its cause i have 160 pending emails on here (please dont let this deter you from asking thou!!!! i love answering questions)
attn everyone, i created a FAQS page right next the the one people click on to ask me a question. so if you must know something and cannot contain yr manners than read my answers to other questions and look up some stuff on wikipedia, i already know you have internet access.
thanks but you dont need to “poor thing” me in this situation. im the one in control and with the power by choosing what and how i respond to.
so can people please get back to asking me fun questions on clothes and what bands i like and my life as a teen and advice on crushes and parents etc etc etc.
(sorry i didnt mean to make this sound like i was talk to you lei, its addressed to everyone)
you dont know me, so yes
but yr name is pastel punks, so no, not at all
it totally is rude, and you know it, so why ask?
also im a transperson, if i had what you call a “vagina” or a “penis” do you really think i would self identify as that body part being called that? in my case…. oh hell no. every trans person is different and feels a large scale of different things about their bodies, same with cisgendered people!
a word of advice to everyone, when it comes to naming other peoples genitals dont use words you think that body part should/can be called, use the same words that person uses. there are so many reasons such as a history of abuse, trauma, body dysphoria, culture, religion that could make the person feel super uncomfortable, triggered, scared, disgusted about their body or the situation they are in. for example instead of saying “oh, you have thrush, maybe you should get yr vagina/pussy/cunt checked” say “oh, you have trush, maybe you should see a gyno and have it checked”. wait until someone uses a certain word(s) for THEIR private parts before you start labeling it.
so the answer to yr latter question is in yr question. imagine im a blank canvas gender less person. the fact that i am “girly” does not add any info what so ever to the canvas or to cluing in what gender i could be, it just reflects what things in pop culture i love and celebrate. i have mega body dysphoria not because nike basketball singlets are too big for me and short skirts look hot on me but cause i just dont feel like my bod functions in the way i feel in my heart it should. i feel kinda trapped, sad but true. i’ve worn a binder everyday for years, and if i dont i feel physically sick, lets face it my boner can only get to a certain size which im not hella impressed by, i cant father children (you hav no idea how fucked this is for me) the list goes on and on and theres alot of history to it too.
i have a zillion more things i can say about this but it is way past my bed time.
over and out.
i got it last year for my 10 year punk anniversary.
my friend cameron did the first 5, he has a tally upto 5 tattooed on him for being in the hail seizures for 5 years, so its also kinda our matching tattoo too.
my friend kendall did the 2nd 5 cause they are my teen brat punk buddy and partner in crime.
i’m 24, my birthday was on the 24th of february
i dont think yr stupid.
i’m gonna copy and paste some links from wikipedia that will explain some stuff a little.
trans women (male to female)
trans man (female to male)
so i was assigned female at birth but identify as male (trans man). i dress in a really femme way which is socially perceived as female. all our ideas on what girls are meant to dress like and act and be into and how they differ from how boys are meant to dress, act etc have been made up and up held by society. they arnt based on nature. i’ve answered a question before on gender and clothing here if you wanna read.
without trying to confuse the hell outta you, i at times disagree with the term anatomically female or male. there are definitely physical characteristics that set “the two genders”* apart but really whats the big difference between “man boobs” and “tits”? and whats the big difference between a “clit” and a “dick” (lol, key word being big i guess)? but srsly. some people are intersex and have both, some people have difference hormone levels or take hormones which can drastically change what the definition of anatomically female/male is, i think people should be able to read their body as they want and what it feels like for them, not as accordance to science text books.
i’m really glad you like my blog <3 <3
*there are definately more than two genders!
i do date both guys and woman.
if i were to be exclusively only into women then technically i would be straight but also i think no matter who im doing it with its gonna be queer in a sexual sense.
and lez be honest, i think very very very few straight women would be sexually into me.