tw: racism, sexism, transmisogyny, white trans guy douchery

teeveedinner:

queerandpheasantstranger:

glitterotti replied to your post:white dude crust punks pretty much entirely suck

y is ths tagged teeveedinner? & i agree w u

their (his?) blog is full of fail right now re: their hair mat (which they call a dread lock), silencing POC who called them out on it and then talking…

well shit is just hitting the fan and flyin all over the place aint it.
firstly wtf is a hair mat? a dread lock is a dread lock and thats what i got.
saying that i am silencing poc is a straight up lie. i am both listening and publishing what is being said, and responding to it. not changing my action does not = silencing.

i never said it is ok for me to have a dread lock, i dont know if it is racist or not but i am just owning my choices.
the reason why i am saying that i have “thought about it” is so people know that my choice is a conscious one, again, i am holding my self accountable and responsible.
i for serious do not have male privilege. i know that many transmen do on many different levels, i am not one of them, im not trying to deny anything, i really do not benefit from male privilege. i am socialised female, read in society as female, move through the world as “female”. also you are calling me out for being sexist…….? is this cause i’m “denying my male privilege” or cause of something else i said?
also i love crust boys

i think you are being so rude, like i am in shock. if you dont like that i have a dread lock then thats fine, if you think im racist and that pisses you off then im sorry but the way you are going about this is straight up attacking me. i mean come on, you keep tagging me in these really full on posts where you are dissing trans people. all i’ve done is try to be honest and talk about a complex thing, i am not saying that im right or that others are wrong. i am just processing out loud and trying to be real with myself and others in the most respectful way i can.

okay here is why having “dread locks” as a white person is racist

holding yourself accountable and taking responsibility means changing your problematic actions when you are called out on them. if you don’t change your problematic actions, your long discussions of what that means to you and how you’re being all responsible and “owning your choices” means jack shit. you’re still doing problematic stuff. how you frame it with pretty meaningless language changes nothing.

trans men have male privilege. saying that you were socialized female is some gigantic radscum bullshit. not having access to all of the male privilege you think you’re entitled to is, frankly, a spectacular manifestation of male privilege. you, as a dude, have male privilege. end of story.

the fact that you love crust boys and glorify those who are able to choose to eat out of dumpsters… yeah.

the fact that you think calling out racism and sexism in the trans community is “attacking trans people” is really fucking problematic.

the fact that you’re trying to be honest means that you really are honestly a racist sexist white guy (however redundant that is).

the fact that you’re processing out loud doesn’t mean you aren’t saying really fucked up things.

the fact that your issue here is that you’re more put-off by being called racist and sexist than by the sure possibility that you actually are racist and sexist is telling.

i am not saying that having a dread isnt racist and nor am i saying that it is. “owning my choices” means that if you think my choice is problematic then i am not gonna disagree with you.
i dont think i should be entitled to male privilege, i think its bullshit and definitely not something im trying to have. if in the future i do have male privilege it is super super important for me to keep it in check and acknowledge it. i have body dysphoria and that is why i identify as male, not because i want society to treat me as they do other males.
i am fully aware of how my privilege and access to things effects my ability to be able to choose to dumpster. dont talk to me in a condescending way as if im clueless to this. many of my friends are crust boys, alot of my community is crust boys, of course im gonna love them (and duh some of them are the most fucked up people i’ve ever met. i was a femme lesbian in the punk scene my entire teenage hood, i know all about oppressive punk boys).
if im being racist then name it as that, dont be bringing that fact im trans into it and using it in a negative way.
you reblogged a post that saids “why don’t more people hate trans men” which is really full on.
i just wanna clarify with you that my hair is this way naturally, i did not get it done or pay for it. not that it makes it any less a dread, i just wanted to say it cause on yr blog yr saying its ok if its natural and referred to as a hair mat. i dont agree, i for serious have never heard that word til this big discussion.
i’m tired and gonna go to bed.
this is outta control, if i dont respond after this its not cause i have nothing to say to you but cause im over this with you and i wanna move on.
you are literally cyber bullyin me. the way some people go about calling out others on the internet disgusts me.
i am not sexist.
somethings i do might do things which are racist, this does not automatically make me evil. i actively work on addressing my learnt racism and sharing with others and calling people out on stuff from a place of love and growth. i have a dread lock in my hair do. some people will find this very problematic and others wont care at all.

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