hex-girlfriend asked: gosh you are so idk adorable and nice! i went thru yr “faq” and “me” section, i learned a lot! and i felt happy to learn, because you’re so sweet to everyone, and super informative, annnnd i just wanted to say thanks! also, how did you get into hitchhiking and traveling? did you save up like, a crapton of money first? i just dk, i want to do it, but it seems sooooooo impossible sometimes, and dangerous, and scary, and i just dk where/how to… start?
dammit tumblr just went weird n i cant reply so i gotta post like this.
aww thanks for telling me that, it makes me really happy!!!!!!! :) + i love yr blog!!!!
the first time i ever hitched it was unplanned, i was 17 and on tour and our car broke down and it was the only way to get somewhere really far away while being in the middle of no where. most people im friends with have hitched before and get around that way alot so its always been easy for me to find a hitching buddy. i first off never suggest hitching for the first time by yourself. personally i hope i never have to hitch by myself (im too shy and scare easily), but alot of people including girls do it all the time alone and are fine. id suggest going with someone whos done it before yr first few times, but if you dont know anyone whos done it or you wanna go with someone specific or its unplanned you can still totally do it.
hitchhiking can be very dangerous but dont let that stop you, just be aware of this stuff: you are getting into a strangers car, you might be in areas where you have no idea where you are, its illegal to hitchhike in alot of places, you’ll likely be standing on the highway with fast moving large vehicles, you might be without a place to sleep or places to get food and water for a while.
my hitchhiking advice is: just cause someone stops for you you dont have to take the ride! if you get a bad vibe or the driver seems drunk etc than dont get in the car even if they are going to where you wanna go, better safe than sorry. sometimes you get rides that start off fine but turn sour, if you feel in danger then demand you need to stop or get out, or make up an excuse that will lead ya’ll to somewhere you have to stop where there will be other people around. be assertive. sometimes yr driver will say really racist or fucked things and you may just hav to ignore whats being said. try not to hitch after dark. have a highway map. know where yr going and what places you will likely pass through, its unlikely you will get one ride to where you wanna go and someone may stop and say “im driving thru blah blah town” and its good to know if thats in the direction you want, its also good to know if yr ride starts taking you somewhere else. plan food with the person yr going with so you arnt eating all their snacks or visa versa. have lots of water. wear good shoes for walking. wear clothes good for being outdoors in and be aware of what you look like, hitching isnt the time to wear yr limpwrist shirt or mini skirt with a slut pride patch on it. ive also hitched with really crusty looking kids and hav had multiple rides ask us if we are going to kill them. once in the car call yr ‘boyfriend’ and be like “im at blah blah, just got in a car with this number plate, they are driving us to blah blah so see you in 3 hours” so the driver can hear. have a good backpack that you know you can carry for long distances. have a sleeping bag and good clothing for different weather conditions, you may hav to stay the night somewhere unexpected. dont unpack yr bag in the car, you dont wanna leave something in the car or have to suddenly leave. make sure you get dropped off on an on ramp/off ramp for the highway or a gas station or a place where you can get another ride in the direction you want. trust yr instincts and choose what info about yrself you share with yr ride. have a secret word or subject topic with yr friend that indicates you dont feel safe or wanna get out of the car. dont fall asleep in the car, drink energy drinks if you have to, even if yr with a friend and everything feel safe you dont know how the driver or other people in the car will start acting with no other witnesses around. ive hitched with people before who carry a sign with them saying the city they are headed to or direction or highway name. ive also hitched with people who are anti having a sign as they want to ask the ride first where they are going as oppose to having someone just pretend they are going to where yr sign says. its up to you what you do. when ever i hav a sign i always draw smiley faces on it and slogans like “god bless” and “please”. dont be drunk or high or on drugs. hitchhiking can be dangerous but if its something you want/need to do than go for it.
heres another post where ive answered questions about hitchhiking.
traveling doesnt hav to be expensive. hitching is definitely a good way to save money and get around. staying at peoples houses or camping is super cheap too. gas jugging is good too if you dont hav the money for gas. if yr going traveling over a long period of time there are many ways to make money too. like: busking in different cities, seasonal work like harvesting beets for a few weeks and one off/short terms jobs such as working at a festival, being an extra, handing out flyers, doing the door at a bar, sex work, medical testing, babysitting, painting a house, working online etc etc etc. the first time i went to the united states was for 3 months and i think i had saved up around US$3000 and it was more than enough and i lived pretty lavishly, as in ate lots of food, drank alcohol, bought all the clothes i wanted.
i’ve been traveling to different places by myself in australia since i was 16. mainly to go see bands. the first time i went overseas was to japan with my girlfriend at the time when i was 20/21 with what were my life savings. that first time i went to the united states i was 22. i flew there with my housemate but we went our separate ways once we arrived and i was ment to meet up and travel with my sweetheart but he got deported a few days before i arrived. so i was alone in a new country and didnt know anyone and didnt really hav any plans and had three months ahead of me there. i was so in over my head and terrified and outta my comfort zone. i spent my first night in nyc in a porter potty. but it ruled!! i made so many friends and went to so many places and did so much and learnt so much. going somewhere new is pretty intimidating but can be so amazing. i love traveling and think its something everyone should experience even if its just two weeks away every 2 years. i think it really can open up yr world and help you grow and if you dont like it you can go home, if you hav one or find a new home.
if you wanna travel but yr not sure where than pic a place you’ve always had an interest in or are curious about or a place that has something you wanna do there like a theme park or a convention you wanna attend. ive always wanted to go on a mega bus tour of the u.s.a (this is my ultimate dream date with someone im crazy about!!!) hahaha megabus stop so many places that i usually wouldnt choose to go and one place leads to another and is super affordable. check it out
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i couldnt resist the temptation to include some photos of me hitchhiking hahaa
Anonymous asked: Don't you think it's pretty problematic for a dude to make a film about women called 'skate bitches'? I hope your film addresses that issue, because as far as I can tell 'bitch' is not your word to 'reclaim' and fetishising women for doing traditionally 'male' activities is misogynistic.
its called skate bitches as its a tribute to skate witches.
the entire premise of the film is about girl hate and judging people on the way they look, especially in the punk community.
i was born and girl and socialised a girl and am living in society as a girl so to speak.
so i dont think theres anything problematic for me to be making the film i am.
Anonymous asked: do you go by sam or sammy as well as samuel?
my names samuel but sometimes people call be sammie.
Anonymous asked: did you spend an entire year hitchhiking in the u.s.? what was it like?
the first time i went to the states in the summer of 2010 i was there for 3 months and spent the whole time traveling around. i got around by hitching and road trips with friends and craigslist rides and megabus. last year i was in the states for 6 months, i lived in seattle for most of it but i did travel a little and went to 18 states in six weeks. i did hitch a few times but was lucky to get rides with friends alot of the way.
i prefer not to hitch, its so much nicer to drive with friends but when i do hitch i never do it alone. it can be very dangerous or a horrible experience or it can be a really fun adventure! i like ending up in small towns you would otherwise never visit, eating lots of snacks, saving money, having to find weird places to stay the night, living in the now, meeting new people who you are sharing a car with, getting to hang with who ever it is yr hitching with. but it can also extremely suck!!!! i hate walking for miles, or waiting for hours, trying to get somewhere by a certain time, or having no where safe to sleep, being outside in bad weather, having bad interactions with rides, when shit goes down, the stress of when its starting to get dark, getting lost etc.
my favourite thing about it was that every place i pass or got dropped off at is exciting to me cause i was in a whole new country. its also alot easier for me to hav general chit chat with rides in the u.s. cause i can just talk about australia heaps. im also someone who alot of the time thinks people are judging me or dont like me so i dont hav the patience to get to know complete randoms, and when hitching it can feel so amazing talking to someone you other wise wouldnt and also know that they are helping you out, and some people are super amazing and really go out of their way for you. ive been sad to leave the car sometimes.
the storys i have from hitching always sound so much more wild and fun than the actual experience. e.g. it was the 4th of july and after being talked to by the police for hitching me and two friends spent the night in an old train carriage, drank whiskey and three way kissed (LOL). i woke up with my period and we went to the closest town and ate bacon and eggs than got multiple rides through the country side in top down convertibles, took a break over some icecream at friendlys then later being dropped off in in the woods by the connecticut river in an old shotting range after night fall we walked miles through a silent suburb with millions of mosquitos while its 90 something degress and found a gas station thats just shutting and the girl who was working was a total dyke and then we all hang out in her car listening to system of a down and she dropws us off at a 24 hours diner but the staff hate us cause we are super dirty and im rubbing my friends crotch with my gross dirty boot so we had to sleep in a shrub outside and wake up and tried cleaning myself in the kfc sink then continued hitching while its 100 degress, its almost dark again and still no where we wanna be and some spinster picks us up and is like “my job sucks but i get alot of money, when i go home im going to drink cocktails in the baby pool, i wanna treat you lovelies too” and buys all three of us train tickets to new york city. its HELL at the time , but makes for a good memory.
Anonymous asked: I know this is super personal and you don't have to answer if you don't want to butttt do you pack? I dress very feminine too and I pack at home but I'm afraid to go out with my weenie.
i havent ever packed in public. i ride a bike everywhere so its inconvenient + uncomfortable and pretty much all my shorts/tights/skirts are tight, like really tight that it would look n feel super bad + i would get negative attention. but use to pack most nights (my packer is sticky n dirty coloured and goopy now, needs a new one!) when i go to bed, its really comforting and nice to touch while half asleep, n i dont wake up in a panic being like ‘o m g bro where the fuck did my dick go’. its also nice to have the feeling of a bigger weenie without it having to be sexual.
if yr afraid to wear it out than dont, do what makes you comfortable. being super femme and having a dick bulge (especially if the public perceives you as a girl) can grab unwanted and dangerous attention from people. but if its something you really wanna be able to do than maybe wear it for a lil a while at a time, put it in yr underpants once youve arrived at a party or wear it only after dark or get a smaller one if that exists. i use the mini.
Anonymous asked: could you please post a picture of your right now? outfit an all. fashion tips? what do you think makes you especially unique? do you like elliott smith? favorite places to shop/eat in portland?
my fashion tips are:
get dressed in front of a mirror with music playing, if its important for you to love yr outfit on that particular day than take yr time, even if it takes you an hour and a half and 30 different outfit variations.
wear what you want!
if it exists it fits (this use to be my slogan when i was obsessed with wearing childrens clothes, its tru thou, can you cut them/ sew in side pannels/ turn it into something else or get a dress for a toddler and pin it to yr shirt)
also my must have for any gender: saddle shoes!!!!!
i think im unique or a freak hahahaha for many reasons. not to boast but its tru, im not the most average person on earth and i thinks that because/effected by: being a boy who was born/raised/ socialised /living as a girl, thats an experience alot of people dont have. also i grew up in a crappy “poor” “rough” “uneducated” area, it really felt like i was living in this place where no one is allowed to dream or do anything new, kinda like a parallel universe bordered up by gates and a roof and no one can see or imagine a world beyond that immediate place and rules, i was a really weird child (check out this pic hahahaha) and i think that environment made me fight and become real strong in myself and i was so bored and unsatisfied that i created my own world and wanted to seek out the truth and adventure. i also think i hav a really holistic understanding of myself and of aesthetic and life and shit.
i’ve never really listened to elliott smith, not my vibe, but i do love bright eyes, are they similar?
i just so happened to be in this video from summer 2010 reviewing waffles in portland. hahaha, food carts are my fav thing about portland!!!!!! i like lots of the waffle ones but this particular one in the vid (wicked waffles) would probs be my fav!! dammit, i want those waffles again wahhhh. my fav shop in portland is the microcosm bookshop.
heres a pic of me right this very second, should put a jacket on, its cold:
Anonymous asked: i'm not the ask who sent the question about tavi but i wanted to ask: tavi seems cool enough, but still comes off as super privileged - what about kids whose parents wouldn't let them/couldn't afford to let their kids play with fashion? sometimes she seems like she's in a bubble of white privilege where every kid had an allowance and access to a computer and could share their outfits on the internet. why can't we celebrate broke ass folks more often? the grit? the grime?
tavi is super privileged, but theres nothing wrong with someone purely cause they are privileged, people are born that way, i think what is more important is what someone does with that privilege, and if/how they acknowledge it and work on it.
there are so many kids (and adults) who are super smart or have interests or wanna do certain things but dont hav access to stuff to aid that or the money, or support or the freedom or safety. it sux. there are so many creative people who will never be able to express that part of themselves or express that to an audience and hav it appreciated.
its so amazing when girls are themselves are do courageous creative stuff, i think it should be celebrated. theres so much sexism in society that hav become ingrained in our lives, interactions, up bringing, schooling, dreams, relationships, workforce etc are feeding some ridiculous pre conceived notion that girls arent as smart as boys or cant do the same things as boys, or if they try to they will be shamed or not respected or are gonna have to struggle. it makes me think of this nicki minaj verse
“I ain’t gotta get a plaque, I ain’t gotta get awards
I just walk up out the door all the girls will applaud.
All the girls will come in as long as they understand
That I’m fighting for the girls that never thought they could win.
Cause before they could begin you told them it was the end
But I am here to reverse the curse that they live in.”
its hella real and true. and yes tavi is privilege but tavi inspires young girls to do things for them, maybe its very intentional or maybe she has no idea but tavi and rookie are breaking that curse for so so so many people.
the people who do get air time or celebrity or space to be herd by the public usually bore the hell outta me, i wish too that there was more diversity and broke ass folks or total weirdo freaks who are celebrated. but i guess thats also why alot of people like that are part of communities that dont celebrate or giv a shit about famous people but instead care about their friends bands/ art/ fashion/ opinions/ lives.
Anonymous asked: It's a little ironic that the rude anon appeared when they did, because I was just about to ask you for advice about living the teen dream after turning 20. Do you have any good tips? Teen culture is rad!
hahahaha good timing!
to be honest i think that for so many people it becomes alot more possible to live the teen dream after 20 than in yr actual teen years. being a teen rules but it can also drool, it can be pretty hard. once you finish school or leave home you get more control over yr life, and for the most part you ultimately get to choose who you spend time with, where you live, who you live with, what you eat, what time you go to bed, what you study if you wanna study, what you do, how often you have friends over etc etc. but of course when yr no longer a teen you have more responsibilities, which isnt necessarily a bad thing.
i lived a pretty ultimate teen dream life as a teen whilst simultaneously having what will probably be the worst years of my life. i feel that at 24 i can say that in the past few years i have lived out my teen dream bigger and better than my imagination could have ever day dreamed of. when i was 17 i had a massive massive crush on someone, we werent really good friends but in the same scene and there was isolated occasions where they once put a bandaid on my knee, had conversations with me, we went out grafitting together once and i didnt think life could get any more exciting, but than when i was 21 we started dating and were together for 2 years and got matching pinky promise ring tattoos (aka we were married lol). all my teen years i wanted to go to the united states and as an adult i lived there and have been to 25 states (i think) and it was so much more amazing than i ever thought possible. theres so many times that i feel like ive lived out my teenage fantasies as an adult.
my advice would be do what you wanna do with yr life even if you have to fight for it, take risks, change yr life so its what you want but dont feel defeated if not everything is ultimate instantly cause the best things about life happen at the right time for a reason. make yr own choices, do crazy things that arnt logical to anyone else, dont stop learning and growing, pay attention to yr day dreams, accept who you are and love it.
Anonymous asked: You're what 24, 26? It's fucking creepy for a dude of your age to be obsessed/into 'teen culture' and loving Rookie and all this stuff. I mean if you were cis and did all this stuff you would get so much side eye. Get it all out your system because in a couple of years it's going to come across as downright predatory.
omfg whatever dude.
i dont have to explain myself to you, however:
even if i were a cis guy and loved rookie what would the issue be?
i have a diploma in youth work and im an artist and a human, my main interest has been teen culture since i was like 11 and i dont see that changing.
so you better lock up yr daughters, oh wait you dont need to cause im not trying to fuck 15 year olds i’m just trying to work with them.
g2g im busy watching larry clark and john waters films and makes posts about pimples.
h-y-p-e-r-d-o-n-t-i-a asked: Hello, I was wondering if you could talk about your tattoos a bit. They're really cute and I'm just generally curious about them. Thanks!
some of them are stick and poke, some are with home made guns, all are by people im friends with or at least was friends with at the time hhaha. my first tattoo was the bandaid below my knee, i got it in 2008. i now have 20. my most recent one was in january this year of a trash can, its a matching tat with/by my friend/housemate/dumpster buddy snotty. i have 3 matching tattoos with my recent ex. the most painful was probably my toes and my pinky finger. my favourite is the teeth with braces. the ‘viva spirit of adventure’ one was done upon leaving my house to go to the u.s.a for the first time. i have a list of all my tattoos here and a pic of my legs here
Anonymous asked: do you think that in 2020 (for example) dressing like how average people dress like today will be trending?? considering that you (and lots of other people) dress all 90s-like. or is it that the 90s are just perfect?
i dont think so
how do average people dress today? its so boring. i feel like nothing new and original has really happened in mainstream fashion to an extent that it defines the era for at last the past 5 years. maybe in 2020 a ‘vintage 2k12 look’ will be facebook blue tones, those tights with @ and ! symbols all over them and cracked iphone screens.
i was born in 88 so i had an ultimate 90s childhood and i hav alot of nostalgia for that time. i think aesthetically the 90s are close to perfection and extremely fun and diverse, like you can be a total freak and dress 90s or preppy and popular and dress 90s etc etc etc etc
Anonymous asked: Did you wear girls clothes when you were a little kid?
i sure did most of the time!!! example a but not exclusively example b
i think that if you were to give a little kid regardless of gender two outfit choices, one being a colourful sparkly frilly dress and the other being some navy blue shorts they would wanna wear the dress.
Anonymous asked: You answer questions in such a buoyant manner, and I want to ask yr opinion here. I'm a girl married to a trans dude who is "stealth" always passes as male; legally male. We identified as queer before we met, but now mostly identify as straight. Most of our friends are queer, and we love all kinds of queer culture, are both feminists, are interested in queer studies, etc. Is it cool if we call ourselves queer/use queer space, or since we pass as straight is it uncool for us to use that space?
it is totally fine for either/both you and/or your partner to call yourselves queer if you feel that you are queer.
personally i think its fine to use queer space if you thinks its appropriate for you to be using. alot of people who are queer pass as straight and are deemed straight by fellows queers, which is super annoying. i’m so over how often queer people who may be dating someone of the opposite sex are constantly called straight and dissed on or how often high femme girls at a gay bar who are dykes are just dismissed as a straight fag hag. all that being said i also fully support queer friendly straight people using some queer space too!!!! i do love a queer ally who’ll hang out like its no big deal and just be themselves and hav solidarity with their friends who just happen to be queer. also remember some people may be queer but not out to themselves yet or not out to you, some have a history and life you dont know about i.e. may hav queer parents, if someone honesty thinks they should be using a space then listen to them.
a good thing to ask yourself when using queer space if you are not queer or are trans but fully pass in society or even if you are queer is ‘am i able to access this for myself in society while feeling safe and respected’. if you can than do give some though over what queer space you enter or what resources you use. for example a stealth trans man who passes or a cis fag who feels confident going to the local gym should do so as oppose to going to the weekly work out club at the queer space for the reasons that the people using that space may not be able to safey access the local gym cause of : their body size or hair or stage in transition or they dont wanna be objectified (althou this grossly happens without consent all the time in queer space) or harassed.
if you are straight and have some queer friends going to a queer prom than dont go unless yr asked. you can go to any prom with yr partner but alot of your queer friends wouldnt/wont be able to. if theres a queer discussion group on coming out than dont go if your straight but if you pass as straight or cis gendered in society you still have probably come out to different people in your life and so this discussion group is relevant to you.
Anonymous asked: how do your weaves work?
i bought loads of fake hair from a huge beauty store on st claude in new orleans, but im sure beauty supplies stores everywhere sell fake hair!!!!!
i just got a packet of different length glue in fake hair extensions (around $15) and some wig clips (around 50c each).
there are a few different ways you can do it. for clip in (which is what i prefer as you can change yr do as often as you like) i just fold the hair along the seam (i dunno what its called but there will be a hard thin seam the hair comes outta) so its really thick and than sew 2 or 3 clips in along the top than clip it in under my hair. for the bang/fringe weave in the pic thats at the top of my page i just used short hair with a natural curl in it, clip it to the top of my head than bobby pin the curl under.
if you want it to be permanent than cut a small section of the weave than braid it into yr hair, roughly 5cms and really tight, put a small elastic band at the bottom. than cut off the seam at the top.
or sew the seam into dreads.
Anonymous asked: what is the film you're working on gonna be about?
i’m filming in two and a half weeks.
once thats done alot more will be reviled.
*insert evil laugh + heaps of promo shots here*